Guys - How to Achieve Success Quickly at Entre Nous

There are small things you can do to make meeting women easier. By projecting a positive attitude whether you feel that way or not you are can condition your subconscious mind. Positive people seem to have all the luck. But it's not just luck - you can make your own luck by following these simple steps.

1 The most important lesson you can learn if you learn nothing else through Entre Nous is to 'be' the ideal person. The type of person you want to meet is genuine, honest, considerate, courteous and reliable. If that is what you want then you have to 'be' that person too. Treat people the way you want to be treated.

2 Your behaviour must be the same for everyone. You cannot tell yourself that you will 'be' the perfect person for the 'right' woman; it doesn't work that way. Your behaviour must be 'just right' with everyone you meet regardless of your opinion of this introduction. If you are casual about manners with the people you are meeting, when you do meet Ms Right your manners will slip because you are not practised.

3 Good manners include calling your introductions promptly, returning phone calls promptly, ensuring your introduction is very clear on the meeting time and venue, take your mobile phone and make sure she takes hers to the meeting place.

4 Meeting twice is to give you and all the other guys at Entre Nous a second chance. Don't let all the other men down at Entre Nous because you don't meet twice. Letting the side down is considered a major faux pas at Entre Nous.

The reason we advise you to meet twice is because women can't make an instant decision of whether she likes you or not, she does but then she is very likely to change her mind. That's why it's important to meet at least twice. If she is not interested in you at first but you ring her when you say you will and can remember what she told you last time you met and she has a good time with you, she will change her mind.

The only way we can give every man a chance to pursue the woman he desires is by getting the women to agree to meeting twice. They have agreed to do this and most will follow the rules if you also follow the rules and meet twice.

If you don't she will think the rule is not important and when you meet your Ms Right she may not be attracted to you at first and also not think the 'meeting twice' rule is important. Then you will miss out and if you have not been meeting all your introductions twice, who will you blame?

You have signed an agreement to attempt to meet each woman twice and if you want to convey to others that you are a man of your word you will keep this rule. It is also your moral obligation to your 'brothers-under-the-skin' to adhere to this rule for their sake. In other words 'do unto others that which you wish to be done to you' to quote a 2000 year old motto that we, at Entre Nous have found still applies.

5 How to put a woman off? It is really easy!
Top Meeting Don'ts
Say, "I'll call you" and don't.
Don't return phone calls promptly
Can't think of anywhere to go or anything to do. (Appear to have no initiative.)
Turn up looking scruffy or with a whiff of alcohol on your breath.
Forget your wallet when you go out with her.
Boast about your assets then split the bill before she has time to offer her share.
Leave your phone on and take calls whilst with her.
Be too honest and tell her you don't think the two of you are suited. (She was probably wondering how to tell you the same thing)
Don't walk her to her car when it's dark.
Talk about your 'ex'.
Talk about other women you have met through Entre Nous
Complain about the women you have met through Entre Nous. (She will wonder what you will say about her and also say to us: "He is a loser!" Most women are attracted to successful men and are less likely to be interested in your failures. )
Encourage her to break the Entre Nous rules, i.e. turning the meeting into a date. (She may be swayed at the time but later it will occur to her that you are not a man of honour. That's what she will tell us at Entre Nous and let me assure you that we will hear about it very soon afterwards. We always do.)

6 Imagine you are successful. Paint pictures of yourself being articulate, fun and above all well mannered. Don't paint unrealistic pictures. Stop yourself from hoping she will be Ms Right. Imagine you will be making a friend.

Finding a partner is uppermost in the single man or single woman's minds. It can be all-consuming. Unfortunately, if one is intense you are likely to 'put off' the very person that could be just right for you.

At Entre Nous we call it 'burning a perfectly good introduction'. That's why we recommend activity meetings initially - casual, informal, definitely not dinner dating. The second meeting gives the nervous person a second chance in the hope they will be less tense next time.

You can help yourself by controlling your thinking. Fantasising about the ultimate, (consummating the marriage) will make you nervous when you meet her. It is safer to guide your thoughts along a realistic path. Be positive but realistic.

The single guy who tells himself that he is not expecting much but has his heart set on Ms Right, may be initially disappointed because she doesn't measure up. If it shows at all she will read his body language – women are very good at that – and leave fairly soon after with no mention of a second meeting.

He will complain to Entre Nous that she was 'an entirely unsuitable match' or 'we had nothing in common', unaware that he has 'burnt a perfectly good introduction'.

Everyone, without doubt, wants romance, sex and a happy family unit. However, these things take time so do not imagine it before a first date. If it is your goal, it will happen but don't confuse your subconscious mind by imagining it happening with every single woman you meet.

By controlling your thoughts and only thinking about beginning the journey, the beginning will go well. If you can get to first base the rest will be easier.

Imagine that each person you meet will agree to a second activity meeting. Imagine yourself engaging in interesting fun activities with lots of laughter. See her laughing at your wisecracks and you feeling good about yourself.

Remind yourself of times when you have been at your best in company and imagine yourself in a similar situation with a woman. Prove to yourself you can be popular with every woman you meet regardless of whether she is the 'one' or not. When you do meet a woman who 'sends your knees to jelly' you will be at your best because you are so practised.

See yourself being attentive and well mannered – just aim at being popular on first meetings and the rest will follow.

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Rosalind Baker (nee Neville), Principal
Telephone: (03) 9669 6000 or 0402 017 243
Email: rb@entrenous.com.au

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